Talking about your salary has long been considered a workplace taboo. But with more and more discussions around pay equity and transparency, many are starting to wonder: Why don’t people share how much they make? Is keeping it private really the best move, or is it time to open up? Are you even allowed to share your salary, or could doing so have consequences?
In this article, we'll explore the potential benefits of sharing your salary, the risks to consider, and how to confidently approach these conversations—with advice from industry experts to help you navigate this tricky topic.
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Legal and workplace policies around salary sharing
If you’re wondering, “Can I share my salary with coworkers?” the answer is yes—sharing your salary with coworkers in the U.S. is entirely legal.
“Discussing and sharing salary information inside and outside work is legally protected by U.S. federal law under the National Labor Relations Act (NLRA),” says Muse career coach Yolanda M. Owens. “Technically, employers can’t formally or informally prohibit, discourage, or retaliate against workers for sharing or discussing their wages.”
While some companies might try to discourage these conversations—whether through company culture, subtle suggestions, or policies that seem to restrict pay discussions—such restrictions aren't enforceable under the NLRA. Employers cannot prohibit or retaliate against employees for discussing wages, even if they’d prefer to keep salaries private.
So, why don’t people share how much they make?
If it’s legal, why do some people still don’t like to talk about it or avoid these conversations? Let’s explore some of the most common reasons salary discussions are avoided.
Cultural norms: Money as a taboo topic
Talking about money is often seen as uncomfortable, even taboo. For generations, money has been considered a private matter. Many people steer clear of the topic altogether—with coworkers, friends, or even family.
In many cultures, openly discussing income is seen as impolite or even inappropriate. This ingrained mindset can make salary conversations feel awkward or intrusive, even if the intent is positive, like addressing pay equity.
Fear of judgment or tension among peers
Another big reason people shy away from sharing their salary is the fear of how others might react. Will coworkers judge you for earning “too much” or “too little?” Could it create jealousy or resentment? These concerns are valid, as salary discussions can sometimes lead to awkward or strained relationships if not handled thoughtfully.
Concerns about violating workplace policies
Some employees worry they might be breaking workplace rules by talking about their salary or being seen negatively by HR or their employer. This fear often comes from employer-imposed myths or vague company policies that discourage pay discussions.
While these myths can be intimidating, it’s important to know your rights and recognize when such rules are more about protecting the company than benefiting employees. Remember: You can legally discuss it in the workplace!
The benefits of sharing your salary
While salary discussions can feel uncomfortable, they also come with significant benefits—for individuals, teams, and workplaces as a whole.
It promotes pay equity
“Salary transparency helps ensure that all employees are paid fairly for the work they do, regardless of gender, race, or other factors,” says HR consultant Wendy Sellers, also known as The HR Lady. “It can help eliminate pay gaps and give employees a clearer understanding of what to expect for similar roles. When everyone knows what others are making, it prevents discrimination, and empowers employees to ask for fair compensation based on their value.”
It encourages self-advocacy
Knowing what others in similar roles earn gives employees the knowledge they need to negotiate better salaries and benefits. “Salary transparency empowers employees’ self-advocacy,” Owens says. “Employees need to be able to make informed decisions about their money, and understanding pay structures in the workplace should be a critical part of that due diligence.”
It builds trust among peers
When employees understand that everyone is being compensated fairly, it reduces the secrecy and suspicion that can harm workplace dynamics, avoiding assumptions and expensive lawsuits, according to Sellers. Transparent pay practices create a culture of openness, which strengthens relationships and encourages collaboration rather than competition.
The potential drawbacks of sharing your salary
As much as salary transparency has its benefits, there are some challenges involved. “Money is a taboo topic, so of course, sharing any information about money has downsides,” Owens says. “Relationships end over finances daily, and work relationships are no exception.”
Here are some of the potential drawbacks to consider before you decide to share your salary with your coworkers.
Workplace tension
While transparency can highlight inequities, it can also affect workplace dynamics. “It can lead to tension or resentment among coworkers, especially if disparities are revealed,” Sellers says. “If someone discovers they are being paid less for the same work, it can create frustration. Employees may also feel uncomfortable if their compensation is compared to others, potentially affecting workplace morale.”
Privacy concerns
Not everyone is comfortable with the idea of openly discussing their salary. Sharing this personal information can feel invasive, especially for individuals who value privacy when it comes to their finances. Even if others benefit from the transparency, it’s natural to feel vulnerable about exposing such details.
Misinterpretation
One major challenge of salary transparency is the potential for misinterpretation. Salaries often reflect factors beyond job titles, such as experience, education, location, or unique responsibilities. Without understanding these nuances, coworkers might jump to conclusions about pay disparities, leading to unnecessary frustration or conflict.
Ready to talk pay? Here’s how to share your salary the right way
When approached thoughtfully, salary discussions can spark productive conversations. These tips will help you navigate these sensitive talks when sharing your salary with coworkers.
1. Choose the right time and place
Timing and setting matter when discussing salary. Opt for a private and respectful environment where you and your coworker can speak openly without interruptions.
“I advocate for baking salary discussions into conversations about your professional development and career goals,” M. Owens says. “Talk about the professional learnings, challenges, career growth, and earning potential goals you want to achieve.”
2. Frame the discussion positively
Salary transparency is most effective when framed around equity and shared goals instead of direct comparisons.
“Frame compensation talks as a way to align compensation with market standards and job expectations,” Sellers says. “Avoid making the conversation feel like a competition, and instead, emphasize fairness and transparency as the main goals.”
Rather than jumping straight into the numbers, start by discussing industry benchmarks or mutual goals for career growth. This can set a positive, non-confrontational tone for the discussion.
For example, you might say, “I’ve been researching the market rate for our roles, and I think it could be helpful for us to get a sense of where we stand. What’s your perspective?” This keeps the focus on fairness, rather than creating rivalry.
3. Be prepared for reactions
Not everyone will react positively to salary discussions, and that’s OK. Some people may feel uncomfortable, defensive, or even dismissive. “Instead of getting defensive, focus on the intent, not the reaction,” Owens says. “Negative responses often stem from insecurity or unfairness rather than anything personal. Understanding the why behind the negativity may help defuse tensions and maintain positive relationships.”
She recommends saying something like, “I sense some tension and want to have a good working relationship. Would you like to discuss what’s on your mind?” Then, listen, stay calm, remain professional, and treat them respectfully.
Decide what’s best for you
Sharing your salary is a personal decision, but it could also spark a positive shift toward fairness at work. Think about the pros and cons, your goals, and how being open might affect your relationships with coworkers.
When done right, salary transparency can pave the way for a more equal workplace and greater career opportunities. By weighing your options and having honest conversations, you can take charge of your career and help create a more equitable environment for everyone.
FAQs
Can an employer tell you not to share your salary?
No, employers in the U.S. cannot legally tell you not to share your salary with coworkers. Under the National Labor Relations Act (NLRA), employees have the right to discuss wages and working conditions. However, some employers may try to discourage it through informal practices, so it’s important to know your rights.
Is it illegal to share your salary with coworkers?
No, it’s not illegal to share your salary with coworkers. In fact, discussing your pay is a legally protected right under federal law in the U.S. Sharing salary information can help promote transparency and address pay inequities in the workplace.
Can my employer disclose my salary to other employees?
While there’s no specific federal law preventing employers from disclosing your salary to others, it’s generally considered unprofessional and could violate company policies or state privacy laws. If you’re concerned whether an employer can disclose your salary without your permission, check your state’s laws or consult HR for clarification.
What should I do if salary discussions create tension at work?
If salary discussions lead to discomfort or conflict, address the situation calmly and professionally. Acknowledge the tension and emphasize the intention behind the conversation—fairness, transparency, or advocacy for equitable pay. If needed, involve HR or a trusted manager to mediate and clarify any misunderstandings or workplace policies.
Is it better to share salary information anonymously?
If you’re uncomfortable discussing your salary openly, anonymous platforms like Glassdoor or Payscale, are excellent alternatives. They allow you to contribute to salary transparency without revealing your identity, helping others get a clearer picture of industry standards while protecting your privacy.